Hi Adam,
I understand your problem, sadly I don't think there is any midi controller that would look like a normal switch.
The easiest way would be to buy a cheap midi controller, desolder one button and connect your switch to the button connectors. The problem with this solution is that you still need to connect the midi controller to cuelux, and usb connections usually do not like going more than a few meters.
The good news is that I have an other solution to propose you, but hardware will be a little bit more expensive.
We have a piece of hardware called Cuecore2. It can be used as a 2 universes DMX interface for Cuelux pro, and it connects to the computer via ethernet ( ethernet connection limit is 100m!). But it also has physical inputs, that means you can connect your switch on it, and this will create a trigger in cuelux pro. Then you can use this trigger to control anything you like in the software.
I hope this will help you,
Enjoy